The “WHY” Questions

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Rush, rush, rush. You’ve got to get to work. The kids are late for school. You need to stop for gas. You grab a coffee and doughnut at the convenience store, then you hurry out to swerve in and out of lanes, jockeying for the number 1 position at the traffic light. Finally, you get to the interstate, and you’re off… to sit in a line of horrific traffic. You jerk, tug, and bounce your vehicle to the beat of the snarling cars and trucks blocking your way. Just as you see your way clear to a better spot in line, an even more crazed driver pulls in front of you and takes the prize spot. You slam on the brakes and hammer your horn. It’s gridlock. OMG!!! You finally get to work safely, albeit late. Your coworker greets you with a less than heart felt, “Good Morning”, and you muffle an even drier, “Whatever”. You’re pissed, your day is horrible and it’s only 9:15 am. Going to your desk and starting to plow through the stacks of papers, you left the day before; just doesn’t feel like the thing to do. You seek out the resident ‘wise woman’ on the job, and force a friendly “How are you doing today?” to get a conversation started. She answers, “Oh, I can’t complain ‘cause it won’t do me any good”. Quickly you realize, her day doesn’t sound any better than yours. That puts you in check real quick. You swallow your gripe and chime an “I hear ya,” then move on. You don’t want to appear out of whack even though you feel like crap, so you carry a numb and weary ‘tone’ throughout the workday.

We all experience something similar every day. The routine of suppressing your feelings dig a proverbial ‘rut’ in your life. You know something is out of place, but you don’t recognize what’s, what. The pieces of your life are out of order, which translates into you being out of balance.

This blog is designed to bring into focus the mainly unconscious dysfunctional conditioning we all suffer from, which includes but is not limited to-negative mind talk, minimizing, projecting, and (that all famous) denial. It is my desire to paint a picture of dysfunction in such a way that it will speak far more than a thousand words. Words that will help us mend broken hearts, soothe angry/confused minds, calm chaotic lives, and bring peace to our communities. It is expected that most of us will go through crisis now and again; however, chronic/recurring crisis is a clear picture of serious unresolved dysfunctional conditioning. “I Think.”

I think for the most part, most people are unaware that they don’t know that they don’t know. What I mean is that we live inside our own worldviews, not realizing that it is not the universal worldview, i.e., what makes sense to me doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else. They are not wrong, nor am I right. We just have different worldviews. When we first hear this and look at it with a clear mind, it seems very simple and sensible. However, a deeper look at the picture begins to emerge and reveal this: People judge your actions based on their own common sense belief. Well, this is what I think. If we begin to understand that common sense is only common among people of like experiences (conditioning), and even in those cases, there will still be differences based on personalities, gender, etc. When we are able to allow others to be more of themselves, we will have fewer tendencies to judge, pigeonhole, design other people’s worlds, and project our values onto others.

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